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There is a loneliness that comes with personal growth.  It’s not from a needy place, but from a realization that as we evolve, we often end up leaving dysfunctional friends and relatives behind.  It can be frightening and a bit unnerving to actually take those steps down the path less traveled.  Until we find new like-minded people to hang out with, we need a bit of reassurance that nothing bad will happen while we travel alone for awhile.

 

These articles discuss the stuff that is a bit more personal in nature unlike the other areas that cover how we get along with others or how we get along with the heavens. These articles have more to do with how we get along with ourselves.  Personal growth and self-help doesn’t have to mean that you’re messed up or that there’s anything wrong that needs ‘fixed’.  It just means that you are taking control of your approach to life, your habits, your choices, and the overall direction of your personal development and self-empowerment.  The articles in this category are about the gifts we give ourselves and the gifts we withhold from ourselves and why.

 

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Hidden Souls

I suppose it’s the nature of the thing that you would feel that you are alone and that nobody else is going through what you are going through.  You have worked on yourself, healing, changing, growing, and becoming more enlightened as to the way the game of life is played.  The result is that you really don’t feel like playing anymore.  No, you aren’t suicidal, but rather you just want to be left alone.  You see the world as superficial and fake.  You see the people you love self-destructing right before your very eyes and you have tried to help them only to find that your help is not wanted.  You have even wrestled with that until you understand that you cannot force others to accept your enlightenment and your wisdom.  You cannot force others to accept your views of life, of peace, of balance, of harmony, of personal reflection, and self-accountability.  Eventually, like a hermit, you go off to live your simple perfectly balanced beautiful little life alone.

 

The Last Day of ‘Who Cares?‘

Yesterday was the last day of ‘Who Cares?’ for my oldest child.  Today is his first day of high school.  From now on, his choices will have a long-term effect on his life.  Nothing will ever be the same for him.

 

Friends Are A Gift You Give Yourself

My oldest boy is fifteen and was a real jerk about a month ago.  He had gotten pretty full of himself and acted like he was too cool for the rest of the family.  Pretty typical teenager behavior, but I didn't like it.  I had gotten to the end of my patience with him and laid into him about how lousy it felt to be treated that way.  We ended up in a huge fight.  He argued that he wasn't acting any different than normal and that I was just choosing to see things negatively.  So, I laid out numerous examples of his selfish "me me me" behaviors without stopping to take a second breath.  He hates it when I go off like that, but once he was ready to really talk, I came down off of my soapbox.  He was close to tears.  Apparently, I'd hit a nerve.  He confessed that his closest friends at school had been trying to tell him the same thing recently and he wasn't hearing them.  Now he suddenly knew what it was they had been trying to say.  He felt awful and began to make immediate changes in his behaviors towards others.  He really hated the idea that he was hurting anyone's feelings by being cold and uncaring.

 

Age Envy

Like many teenagers, my children think it would be cool to be on television and in the movies.  Therefore, they both like to try out for roles as extras in commercials and various films when the opportunity shows itself.  When we still lived in Oregon, my son tried out for a background role in a commercial promoting the Portland Trailblazers.  As I sat in the waiting room waiting for him to finish his interview, I was amazed to see an elderly woman come bouncing into the office wearing the most outrageous costume.  She was easily 70 years old.  However, she had the energy of a 20 year old.  She wore a flamboyant red hat and a crazy purple outfit.  She had attached purple feather boas around the base of her blouse and around the cuffs of her pants and sleeves.  She was like some kind of cartoon character right out of Tune Town.

 

Choosing Our Parents

There is a Native American belief that before we are born, we choose our parents.  It actually ties in pretty nicely with the reincarnation idea that we prearrange certain circumstances before each life so as to learn different lessons.  Either way, our parents teach us so much more than they ever mean to.  Through their choices, circumstances, faults, talents and ability to show their love and support, they mold us.  If life is a rat race, then our folks determine what we come out of the starting blocks with.  

 

Therapeutic Driving with the Radio On

From the time I bought my first car, I have had a love of driving.  In my next life, I want to be a racecar driver.  I thought I might get to it this time, but doesn’t look like it.  Whenever I am experiencing dramas or stress in my life, I have always found peace and answers to the questions that plague me while I drive.  I find night driving to be especially therapeutic.  I can remember driving around for hours playing Lionel Richie’s Stuck On You over and over again one dark winter night while trying to get over breaking up with my college sweetheart.  Other times, my spirit guides would talk with me answering my questions about life and what direction I ought to go in next.  Driving is great therapy.

 

Things Are Good Because I Say They Are

The subject of positive self-talk regarding our goals and dreams reminds me of the childhood story, The Velveteen Rabbit.  The boy loves the toy so much that a magic fairy comes and turns the toy bunny into a real rabbit.  She tells the bunny it has been loved so much that it has earned the right to be real.  

 

Real Friends

About a year ago, I was talking to a friend of mine on the telephone.  He had just experienced a big success in his career and wanted to brag.  We had a great time cheering and laughing over his big moment.  Then as we were wrapping up our phone call, he apologized for gloating to me.  I blew it off telling him, “Don’t apologize!  Real friends are people that you can cry with during the bad times and gloat with during the good times.  Everyone else expects you to be politically correct in your behaviors.”  What’s the point of having friends if you can’t be yourself around them?

 

The Go to Hell Fund

Years ago, an elderly gentleman friend of mine gave me a piece of advice.  He said that true personal freedom comes from having the resources that create the ability to tell someone to ‘go to hell’ metaphorically.  He said that everyone regardless of race, gender, or income level should have a nest egg stashed away with at least 4-6 months worth of wages safely held aside.  With that amount of income in savings, one has the ability to say ‘no’ to things that do not serve them.  Too many people are stuck in bad situations because they don’t have the financial resources needed to walk away.  With enough money to live off of for 4-6 months, one can leave a bad relationship, quit a job that they hate, or be completely ready if they should suddenly find themselves unemployed and looking for work.  The Go to Hell Fund gives you the ability to look adversity in the face and thumb your nose at it, knowing that you have the time and resources needed to change the situation into something that works for you.  

 

Women and Aging

When I was ten years old, America celebrated it’s 200th Birthday.  I told myself that I wanted to live to be at least 111 years old so that I could see the tri-centennial celebration.  As more and more people live to be over 100, the idea isn’t as far fetched as it was back in the 70’s when I first announced it to my folks.  Lately, I keep coming across beautiful dynamic women in their early to mid-fifties that are going through some sort of an age related depression.  It’s understood that if you don’t look and feel old by the time you’re fifty, you soon will.  Most of us don’t age as beautifully as Sophia Loren and some of the other starlets.  If I am to reach the age of 111, then half of my life will be as an old woman.  I better make peace with that now.  

 

Five Ways to Expand Your Comfort ZoneTaking Personal Stock

What is the difference between self-criticism and self-awareness?  There is so much talk in the world about loving ourselves just the way we are.  The idea is that we are each perfect and beautiful.  It goes even further to say that in reference to our personal journeys, we are exactly where we are meant to be and there is no need to berate ourselves for not being more spiritual, more educated, more affluent, more of anything.  My concern is that so many people take that to mean they can then sit and do nothing about fixing any of their self-limiting ways.  People act as though acknowledging a flaw or even using the very word ‘flaw’ is the same as self-hatred and is too critical.  Yes, those who have been on the path of self-enlightenment for a long time have discovered the difference, but I am not so sure that the everyday Joe on the street understands the message completely.

 

Year-End Accounting

As this year comes to an end, I find myself contemplating ‘New Year’s Resolutions.’  Not the actual resolutions that I will make, but the concept that we actually deem this the day to make resolutions.  I guess I have three times each year that I make ‘New Year’s Resolutions’ -- my birthday, my annual vacation, and in September when my kids go back to school.  Each one tends to focus on a different theme, not that they do not all flow into each other.  Other than fiscal tax-related goals, I cannot really see any reason to make the calendar year a momentous occasion to make big statements of personal change.  So, here I sit trying to come up with big life improving goals to set and I come up with the same ones I have made every year.  This is the year that I am going to lose that pesky ten pounds that has bothered me since I was seventeen years old and this is the year that I am finally going to gain some sort of control over my Janis Joplin mess of hair.

 

Finding Passion Series

Finding Yourself

We have been told that the things we don’t like in our children are the same things we don’t like in ourselves.  We are told that we project our own flaws and issues onto our perceived enemies in an attempt to work them out within ourselves.  We stereotype people according to who they hang out with.  Birds of a feather flock together.  We’re attracted to people like ourselves, with the same flaws.    

 

Finding Direction

In order to find the right direction for ourselves, we have to do some soul searching.  What is it I want to accomplish?  Why?  What kind of person do I want to become?  Is it so weird to be in our thirties or forties and ask ourselves, “So, what do I want to be when I grow up?”  What would make us jump out of bed excited and motivated to get the day started?  Before getting into these big questions, we need to find out the roots behind our decisions.  What motivates us to choose what we choose?

 

Finding Your Inner Flame

Why is it that some goals have a fire and a passion behind them that creates an almost self-propelled drive towards completion, while other goals are left dead in the water before they’ve hardly even begun?  What causes that level of motivation to manifest itself?  Can we harness it?  Can we predict when and where it will hit?  The answers lie in finding out if the person setting the goal is in touch with his or her own deepest desires.  Do they really understand who and what they are?  Do they really know what it is that drives them?  

 

Forgiving the Unforgivable

Religious teachings say that we have to forgive each other.  Turn the other cheek.  From our earliest childhood memories, our parents were telling us that we have to forgive our siblings when they hurt us or break our things.  Forgive and forget.  To hold a grudge will get you shunned and even ridiculed by others in society, “Ah just get over it.  They said they were sorry.”  We get this huge guilt complex dumped on us from all directions.  We are expected to forgive everyone no matter what they do and no matter what their motivation was for doing it.  Often, people aren’t even sorry that they have caused us pain and sorrow, yet we still have to offer up our forgiveness anyway.  To refuse to forgive someone is often considered a greater sin then whatever the original crime was.  But what about big stuff like infidelity, murder, kidnapping, and rape?  What about the crimes of one society against another, like slavery, genocide, or destroying all of the art and history books of the losing team in a war?  How do you forgive the really bad stuff and what if deep down in your most private heart you really don’t forgive them?  Then what?

 

Faith and Destiny

Destiny knew that she had a great calling to fulfill.  She had agreed to take on a spiritual assignment that would bring love and joy to her little corner of the world.  However, her inner critic was loud and persistent.  She did not believe that she was capable of accomplishing that which she was meant to do.  Even after years of spiritual lessons and tutoring from the angels themselves, she still did not believe in herself.  It wasn’t that she did not want to do it.  Her inner critic always convinced her that she wasn’t ready quite yet.  Years were passing by and she was still waiting to become worthy of her own special place in the world.  

 

The Domino Effect

It wasn’t all that long ago that people rarely gave themselves permission to do anything for themselves.  They stayed in bad marriages because the church and their communities would ostracize them for having a divorce.  They set aside personal dreams to toil away at the family business.  Men would hear such things as, “Your father was a doctor, his father was a doctor, his father before that was a doctor, and all the way back through seven generations the men in our family have always been doctors, so you will be a doctor too.”  Women would silently suffer through all sorts of abuse rather than shame their families by speaking out against those who would do such things.  They would work hard, sacrifice much, and never do anything to shame the family honor.  They weren’t really all that happy, but they had things mapped out for them and the rules were very clear.

 

Imaginal Cells

Have you ever noticed a change that needed to happen at work that would make things run smoother, would result in more customer satisfaction, would create more profit, or would simply improve employee moral without negatively affecting productivity?  Did your manager shut you down and completely ignore your suggestions?  Have you ever had a vision for how your local community or state could make some positive changes to clean up the environment, ease traffic congestion, keep the teenagers out of trouble, or help the homeless only to have the local politicians and officials bury your ideas in red tape and governmental double-talk?  Have you ever had spiritual ideals that were incredibly inclusive and loving, yet people were so close-minded that they couldn’t even see the beauty of what you were envisioning for them?  Have you ever pinpointed the root causes of your family’s dysfunctional behaviors and beat your head against a wall trying to get them to heal, grow, and change along with you?  Have you ever felt like the Lone Ranger?

 

Breaking Free of the Past

Everyone makes a mistake at some point in their life.  Most of us make the majority of our mistakes when we are young.  Teenagers and twenty-somethings are especially prone to make some whoppers!  After we make those big mistakes, we naturally want to fix the problems and get on to better things.  Nobody likes to sit in mistakes they made during their youth for the rest of their lives.  Some mistakes do follow us forever, but that does not change the fact that we still want to move onwards and upwards towards better days.

 

Different Drummers

So many of us feel like we just don’t fit in.  I remember reading in the first pages of the first chapter of my first psychology class that most people have some form of a mental health challenge, disorder, problem, or imbalance.  They were not saying that everyone is completely nuts, but that it is normal to be abnormal!  I have forever been touched by the deep irony of that concept.  It is no wonder that so many of us hear that far off faint sound of a different drummer?  Some of us give in and march to that different drummer and some do everything they can to quiet the sound so that they can keep time marching with the masses.  Why do we want so badly to fit in with each other?

 

The Loneliness of Personal Growth

The cream rises to the top.  That means that it separates itself from the milk.  Perhaps that is what the New Age Movement is really all about.  We tell ourselves that it’s lonely at the top.  Yes, it is.  Maybe we have to figure out how to maintain ourselves as cream, but also stay whipped up within the milk?  I am picturing some sort of luscious desert all decadent and wonderful… like hot cocoa with the marshmallows stirred in rather than just floating on top.  But then the marshmallow is no longer a unique wonderful treat; it has been broken down into the masses and lost its integrity.  It is a different lesson that comes into play after you have experienced a decent bit of enlightenment and growth.

 

A.D.H.D. and A.A.D.

My oldest son was diagnosed with ADHD years ago.  It has been a journey to say the least.  My youngest is just starting kindergarten and shows much worse signs than his older brother did at the same age.  And so, we get to do this one more time.

 

Feelings and Attitudes

Are feelings and attitudes the same thing or different?  Does one cause the other to happen?  Which one has more power over how we respond?  Does the person experiencing them have any choice in the matter?  What if they are in conflict?

 

What Comes Around Goes Around

One summer, I was visiting with my sister and her family.  They live in a different state than us so it is always a major event to travel for an extended visit.  They always put us up for the week and do their best to make sure everyone has a great time.  My sister’s oldest child is a beautiful young girl who was about to start high school that fall.  I’ll call her Pixie because she shares my love of fairies.  The first day I was there, Pixie told me that my sister has started comparing the two of us.  Apparently, whenever she’s angry at Pixie for misbehaving, my sister says, “You’re just like your aunt Skye!”  Since Pixie hasn’t seen very much of me over the years, she was naturally curious to find out what that means to be just like me.  From what I understand, my sister basically told her that we were both really stubborn and won’t back down in a fight and that we both always have to march to our own drummer.  My sister loves both of us so we were not too worried about that.  But Pixie wanted advice from me about what I would do if I were in her shoes getting in trouble for the things she gets into trouble for.